“Do something. You’re NOT DEAD YET.
As author Barbara Sher says, ‘It’s only too late if you don’t start now.’
Or if you prefer my version, ‘Quit your bitching. Change your life.’
Don’t be the hag at your own party. Stop hurting yourself. If your thinking isn’t working for you, change your mind. Or better yet, simply, quietly….
….begin.”
Wow, huh? Yes, these are words by an incredible woman. I want to put in parentheses right here that I regret it isn’t me, but that would defeat the purpose of the entire piece I’m sharing with you today.
One fact is, Jennifer Boykin, who wrote the above, IS an incredible woman and an amazing, amazing writer – the kind I aspire to be someday. The other fact is I, too, am an incredible woman. I just didn’t always know that, but through the work of women like Jennifer, I have found that to be true.
Now my daughter would beg to differ with me. I can just hear her saying, “What? Mom, you’re your own biggest cheerleader.” Ah..ha..that’s how I fake it – or at least did so until I found Jennifer Boykin’s website:
It was there I discovered that spewing my “greatness” and trying to keep up a perfect image along with running around trying to control every person and aspect in my life to achieve the appearance of perfection was the very thing that left me exhausted, depleted, filled with anxiety and fear – in short – crippled.
Too crippled to move forward. I put up the window dressing and when people walked by, they couldn’t help but say ‘wow’. If they ever entered the store and found the mess inside, I was sure they wouldn’t have been interested in buying.
After reading Jennifer’s statements that I opened this piece with, I wanted to do it. I wanted to “begin….”. So I did. With my writing. I dropped the pretense and started writing from the heart. It was only after I propped open the door to the “store”, swept out the mess, let the sunshine in, set a potted plant in the doorway, and invited others in, that inner peace filled my soul. Imagine that. The thing I feared – letting people see the mess and garbage inside – was the very thing that set me free from continuing to cripple myself.
I know I’ve shared Jennifer’s website with you before and many have thanked me. It just came across Facebook today that Jennifer has posted in the Huffington Post. Big congrats, girlfriend! What she posted about though deserves even bigger congrats. Jennifer just wrote, in honor of her site’s first anniversary, a 96 page PDF e-book for us women that want to do it. That want to “begin”. That want to “stop bitching and change our lives”. And the best part? It’s FREE! Just download it to your kindle and “begin”. The title of the book is “Breakthrough” and the link to get your copy is below.
The very best thing about this great piece of work? The only thing Jennifer asks is that you share it with every woman you know so as a gender we can stop spinning our wheels and get going. If you truly want to crystallize the way you see yourself and the way you live your life, get your copy TODAY. I am halfway through my copy and I had to put it down and share it with all my lovelies.
And so, as another day goes by, I invite all of you to take that step today and “begin”, and…I have written.
Breakthrough by Jennifer Boykin
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